Health Smart Mom

It is hard to accept when a loved one sustains an injury or illness that leads to a physical challenge in their lives.  We may become their main caregiver.  That can scare and immobilize the strongest people.  But, understanding can make it all work out.

After the initial shock that comes from learning of a physical challenge, we still have to care for our loved one.  This is both a mental and a physical task for caregivers.  Imagine how the loved one feels.  They have lost a part of their life that they will be unable, or have to struggle, to get back.  It is even more of a blow to them.

The last thing anyone wants to be is a burden to another person, especially someone that they love.  Being dependent reminds us of being an invalid.  We lose a sense of control when our lives are in the hands of another.

Understanding a loved one’s physical challenge begins here.  It is hard to help someone who doesn’t want or need our help.  Part of giving care is knowing when to help and when to let them go.  The line between the two is fine and we are challenged daily.

Another area that immobilizes caregivers is the actual physical care of our physically challenged loved ones.  We don’t know where to begin to help them.  Knowledge is power here just like everywhere else.

Learn all that you can about the disease, illness, or injury.  Doctors can provide pamphlets and the names of websites and foundations familiar with the condition.  Therapists are usually needed for rehabilitation.  They would be happy to engage the caregiver in therapy sessions and answer any questions.

Managing and understanding a loved one’s physical challenge is a team effort.  You are the head, but many arms will uphold you and your loved one throughout the experience.  It involves doctors, psychiatrists, therapists, extended family, home health nurses, and others for support.  Each person adds a different perspective on the needs of your loved one to build a complete picture of their situation.

Caregivers need support as well.  To be a better caregiver it is sometimes necessary to step back and take a break.  Around the clock care can take its toll both physically and mentally.  Love can quickly turn to resentment and guilt.

Time away can keep that from happening.  Enlist the help of child and adult daycare centers, home care agencies, and family to share the care.  Get away and enjoy time alone or with friends.  Now you are renewed in mind and body to care for your loved one.

Understanding a physical challenge involves time, teamwork, and knowledge.  No one can care for another all alone.  Utilize a support network to increase the quality of life for your loved one and yourself.